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What conversation do you have with yourself?

When we think of conversations we generally think of ones we are having with other people. Have you ever stopped and listened to the conversations you are having with yourself? Do you speak to yourself with the level of respect you deserve, and more importantly, are they actually helpful?

Jack Canfield, co-creator of the super successful “Chicken Soup for the Soul” shares with us that the average person talks to themselves thousands of times a day. The alarming part is that 80% of those conversations are negative. This negativity is creating or enhancing self-doubt, allowing us to accept all we fear, stopping us from doing and achieving our best work, and just making us feel unworthy.

What if we had a choice? We could choose to stay in the 80% or we could jump across and help increase that low 20% result.

Often, we are not even aware of our own conversations, we just have them without even realising. So some tips to turn our negative self-talk into self-talk that is powerful, productive and will be rewarding to how we conduct ourselves is:

  1. Make ourselves aware of the conversations we are having. Don’t zone out, zone in. Take control over what we are saying.
  2. If we hear negative talk, think of how we can change that conversation to be more upbeat and helpful. It will improve your performance in everything you do.
  3. Think of all the things you do well, that you achieve daily and replace that negativity with achievement reminders.
  4. Replace your fears with confidence in knowing you can do it. We can motivate ourselves, we just need to choose our words wisely.
  5. Eliminate negative situations, people, thoughts, places as much as we can from our lives, or at least show them how they can help instead of hindering us.

These things don’t happen overnight, but the exciting part is, we can change every day for the better, changing even a few conversations will be empowering to yourself.

This is your life, your body, your choice. Respect yourself enough to have great powerful conversations that will help you be confident, successful and happy.

I love this quote from the fabulous singer Adele…
“I have insecurities, of course, but I don’t hang out with anyone who points them out to me”.

Tell the negative committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut upAnn Bradford

 


 

tracey-mathers-blog-h200pxAfter being a business owner for 25 years I have now sold my business to concentrate on my mentoring clients. I want to help people to find their WHY and their HOW to make the necessary changes to improve their business and personal lives. Taking control of where you are, but more importantly where you want to be, is what it is all about.

You need to work out what is stopping you, what changes need to be made or improved on, so you can move forward with gusto and determination. Go get the life you want, it’s ready for you. I would love to help you. Please get in touch for a chat via this website, or email me at tracey@traceymathers.com